Understanding mixed feelings in relationships

Any relationship we invest in will bring up mixed feelings. The more we invest, the more vulnerable to hurt and disappointment we become and the more likely anger will come up when people fall short of our expectations and how we think things should be. One common response to these mixed feelings is to try … Continue reading Understanding mixed feelings in relationships

Simple does not mean easy

I don't know why, but virtually everyone I see in therapy has a story they tell themselves that is some version of the following: "Of course, I know what my emotions are and of course, I am aware of how I manage my conflicting emotions towards others. It's simple!" As I re-read that passage, I … Continue reading Simple does not mean easy

Why do we act the way we do? Survival Maps!

 As I have talked about in previous posts, we are biologically programmed to be well, so we learn the most efficient ways to get our needs met and stay out of harms way very early on, even before we can talk! Here is a 5 min video summary about how and why we form Survival … Continue reading Why do we act the way we do? Survival Maps!